• Dad's Notes

    Dad’s Role in Growing the Kids

    Many people say a mom has a strong bond with her children. I think that’s true. Children had once resided in their mom’s wombs before they were born into the world, from where there came the bond between them. So what about dad as the ‘external party’? Dads, no need to worry about it. Dads also take a prominent role in the growth of kids. The emotional bond between dads and kids has a very large effect to the emotional intelligence of kids which will be brought up to their adulthood. Hence it is of great magnitude to build an INTERACTION between dads and kids which is already on the…

  • Family Time,  Work-Life Balance

    Being a Parent and a Leader at Once

      One afternoon when I was working at office, my wife made a phone call from home, “Dad, Adek is out of control now and I can’t manage him to get along. So I had to prod a little hard poke on his ear. He’s crying now calling your name. When you’re home and he grumbles and complains please back me up..” It means my wife wanted both of us to have one word. It’s not in the right way when one parent comes up as ‘the antagonist’ and the other one as “the savior God”. We must be a solid team. So, what should I do then?

  • Dad's Notes

    Indonesian Father’s Day

    Father’s Day in many countries in the world is celebrated on Sunday of June’s third week, comprising countries like U.S.A., Canada, Germany, Italy, Malaysia, Singapore, and others. What about in Indonesia, my country? Far different from those said above, Father’s Day is ticked on the calendar at November 12. It has left a distinctive note to the assignment of Indonesian Father’s Day on the respective date. The ‘history’ has been still quite young as it was declared just ten years ago (on November 12, 2006) within the authority of President Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono at that time. The Father’s Day which is clearly attributed to male had been declared by women instead.…

  • Work-Life Balance

    Working Mom or Stay-at-home Mom?

    My wife had quit her job on July this year, after dedicating herself in banking world (just like me) since 2002. Yes… for 14 years. When the decision was made up, it seemed to be an easy thing to pick up, yet it had been only the top of a giant iceberg indeed. What hanged down beneath the water was such a big obstacle which had brought ups and downs. Somehow, going back home as a mom and a wife was likely to bring her to a whole new world. So excited and passionate to be a true mom. From this moment on, there will be no more office hassles,…

  • Family Time

    Surprise for Dad

    This is the English version of my previous post about the same story. I found it good to share this trivial moment, but it really meant and squeezed my feelings: “Surpriiise.. This is for you, Ayah (Dad)..” It was a greeting from Rasha, my eldest child, when I came home from the office a few days ago. She passed me a flat rectangle-shaped gift wrapped in a yellow paper. “Wow, for me? Thanks Dear..” I replied while smacking on her cheek. She looked happy to see her father take delivery of the surprise parcel excitedly. Yes, happiness is quite simple. Getting an attention from belated kid is beyond all expressions.

  • Kids' Workout

    When Kids (Learn to) Start a Business

      I will have to admit that schools have likely been such an oasis in the desert draining away the drought of entrepreneur spirit throughout the years, just like what I’ve felt in particular. Schools in recent years, also pointing to my kids’ school, contribute to helping students learn and develop their entrepreneurial skills. In about three decades ago, most of students were taught to just study toward excellent results of the exams. Splashing ideas for earning some pennies, even just for fun, was hardly easy to make up. Sad to say, it was parents who just discouraged their kids’ proactively spirit for creating and selling the manifestation of their…

  • Family Time

    Love a Cat, Have a Pet?

    Just like a large number of kids, my two kids love animals as well. They always dream of having pets to cuddle and play with at home. Meanwhile, I have always thought that it’s a hassle to take care of animals in the house. Of course I have a reason for that. Years ago when I was at the kids’ age I had fostered a number of cats I found on the streets for some consecutive times. So I knew how it was to deal with the ups and downs of ‘petsitting’ in the family. However my kids had succeeded to attract some animals to our house. At the count…

  • Kids' Workout

    Raising Kids for Entrepreneurship

    When I was 10 years old –equals to my daughter’s age by the end of this year- I began to have an interest in getting acquainted with what is called Entrepreneurship. Creating some hand-made paper bookmarks and selling them to friends were really something amazing. Earning money at an elementary school stage was unbelievable. No! No! No! My (late) dad blew the whistle and took it as an objection.

  • Motivation

    Shameful Things can be Controlled

    James “Jim” Lawrence Marshall was the defensive player of the Minnesota Vikings, a team of American football, in the 1960’s. He had ever had himself do the most shameful thing in the history of sport, and his life as well. In a game against the San Francisco 49ers in 1964, he grabbed the ball and ran for a score. The crowd cheered. However, not to give him encouragement, but shouting to him to change his direction. Yes, Jim ran and made a touchdown on the wrong direction. The incident was broadcasted on televisions throughout America.