• Dad's Notes

    Ready into Fatherhood

    Being a dad is not so easy as you think. You have to prepare all things about fatherhood. Preparation for being a good dad is more than just reading story books, childproofing the electrical outlets, and buying a mini-bus. That’s an easy stuff. The important things are those that most first-time dads learn along the way. Here, you can learn about it. Understanding Fatherhood You’ll be more important to the kids than to anyone else. Don’t be afraid. The kids need you but you don’t have to force yourself to things that you can’t do. Let mommy do the works what you can’t do. You need an understanding about fatherhood…

  • Family Time,  Work-Life Balance

    Practical Tips to Make Your Kids Get along

    When you find your kid crying, don’t waste your time calming him down. It would be better to distract him from crying by pointing your finger up over to flying birds or clouds in the sky. As he looks up, he’ll stop crying. Why? The nature of persons when crying is when they raise heads down. You want your kids stop playing around. Please don’t say: “All right, it’s enough. Stop playing now”. Use these words instead: “Five minutes to go to keep playing, Kids”. Remind them for more: “Two minutes to go”. And finally, make a closing: “Okay, time is up”. They will stop playing. When you get distorted…

  • Dad's Notes,  Family Time,  Work-Life Balance

    Dad is 50 Miles Away

    It’s been three weeks long I haven’t got in touch with my blog since the last time I posted my story. There was one thing that got me to pay a full attention and distracted me from my blogging activity. Yeah, the bank I work for had assigned me to a new place out of my town. So I had to prepare things I needed for my moving to my new office. I moved to a smaller town than the one I have been living in all the time, my home town. It’s not so far away indeed which is only about 80 km away (50 miles) and takes me…

  • Motivation,  Reflection

    Broken Racquet

    A little boy had unintentionally broken his dad’s badminton racquet. In a fear of being punished by his dad, he desperately hid the racquet beneath the bed in his bedroom. Each time his dad got inside the bedroom, the boy constantly showed a fearful attitude. On purpose he sit on the bed covering the racquet beneath in order to distract his dad from getting closer to the bed, so his dad would never think that the racquet was indeed around. Consequently, the boy always tried to manage to move the racquet from one place to another as frequent as he could hoping his dad couldn’t find it. Things were going…

  • Family Time,  Kid's Workout

    Failing is not a Loss

    “Dad, I didn’t make it…” That was what my son said just last week after getting done his piano playing on a music competition. Alongside of his elder sister at the same contest who ended up as the first winner at her category, my boy didn’t get his name on the stage call for the winning inaugural ceremony. However, he was kept awarded a consolation trophy in appreciation of his participation. And those words were all what I had waited to hear…

  • Family Time,  Kid's Workout

    English First, My Boy

    I am an Indonesian. I and my family speak Indonesian language in our daily life. To be specific, we also speak our local region language, Javanese. To be more specific, the city where we live, Surabaya, has absolutely influenced the way we communicate with its distinctive local dialect added to our Javanese language. In practice, we may use those three languages all together or mix them in our everyday conversations.

  • Family Time,  Work-Life Balance

    Being a Parent and a Leader at Once

      One afternoon when I was working at office, my wife made a phone call from home, “Dad, Adek is out of control now and I can’t manage him to get along. So I had to prod a little hard poke on his ear. He’s crying now calling your name. When you’re home and he grumbles and complains please back me up..” It means my wife wanted both of us to have one word. It’s not in the right way when one parent comes up as ‘the antagonist’ and the other one as “the savior God”. We must be a solid team. So, what should I do then?

  • Dad's Notes

    Indonesian Father’s Day

    Father’s Day in many countries in the world is celebrated on Sunday of June’s third week, comprising countries like U.S.A., Canada, Germany, Italy, Malaysia, Singapore, and others. What about in Indonesia, my country? Far different from those said above, Father’s Day is ticked on the calendar at November 12. It has left a distinctive note to the assignment of Indonesian Father’s Day on the respective date. The ‘history’ has been still quite young as it was declared just ten years ago (on November 12, 2006) within the authority of President Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono at that time. The Father’s Day which is clearly attributed to male had been declared by women instead.…

  • Family Time

    Surprise for Dad

    This is the English version of my previous post about the same story. I found it good to share this trivial moment, but it really meant and squeezed my feelings: “Surpriiise.. This is for you, Ayah (Dad)..” It was a greeting from Rasha, my eldest child, when I came home from the office a few days ago. She passed me a flat rectangle-shaped gift wrapped in a yellow paper. “Wow, for me? Thanks Dear..” I replied while smacking on her cheek. She looked happy to see her father take delivery of the surprise parcel excitedly. Yes, happiness is quite simple. Getting an attention from belated kid is beyond all expressions.

  • Dad's Notes

    Internet di bawah Kendali Anak-anak

    Zaman berubah. Sejak internet mulai dikenal masyarakat secara luas pada akhir 1990-an, akselerasinya semakin ke mana-mana, tak terbendung. Kini, jangan ditanya lagi. Dinamika dan detail perkembangan internet sudah merasuk ke setiap sendi kehidupan masyarakat. Apalagi dengan hadirnya teknologi gadget yang membuat dunia berada dalam genggaman. Bagi mereka yang saat ini berada dalam range usia produktif, katakanlah usia 30-an dan 40-an, internet bisa dikatakan melengkapi kebutuhan mereka dalam beraktifitas, berkreasi, dan berproduksi. Dengan ‘kematangan’ pola pikir yang dimiliki, internet mereka olah dan ajak berdampingan untuk dijadikan supporting tool bagi interest mereka. Tapi bagi anak-anak, katakanlah mereka yang berusia di bawah 18 tahun, lain lagi. Mereka yang tengah berada dalam masa pertumbuhan…