It’s been two years after my wife quit her job, and it’s been one year after I moved to work out of town. The two consecutive episodes in which our kids revealed objection yet they knew they had to get along with both of them.
Throwback, I and my wife were two working parents, dealing with the same industry, banking. Working in service industry in a severe competition brought us to spending overtime for work. Reaching our doorstep beyond lullaby time was the ‘normal’ situation for us. Real crazy.
We never had enough time to gather ‘round with our kids. When we got home, kids had slept away. When they just got up in the morning, we set off to go to work. Real nuts.
The most dramatic, our kids –who were at kindergarten and toddler age at the time- spent more time with our elderly household assistant than with their parents, and they even called her Nenek (equals to Grandma). Can you believe that? Real insane.
Thankfully, the time for a change had come. My wife made a big decision: quitting her job. She sent out her resignation letter when she was just at sparkling career path: just having been promoted to Branch Manager position. That’s why I called it a big decision. A sacrifice as well, so called.
I’m so sure you can imagine how happy our kids were. It felt like having their parents back for them. Their mom had dedicatedly turned out to being a real mom. Blazers, laptop, and all other official stuff were all put off! Casual clothes and slip-on shoes came up to be her new style then. Her ‘business’ now is taking the kids to and fro the school.
Six months elapsed. The story turned to mine. The bank I work for assigned me to its office out town. It means I had to leave my family for a week time. The kids restarted the march for protest. Not a second time ‘losing’ their parents again. They remarked a unity.
I did understand this was a challenge. I knew as well this was a good chance to make them understand that this is life. We are not to stand still, but changes are always along the way. This time, our kids had both been in elementary school stage, and along with their mental and thinking growth, it was the good time to explain to them and make them understand.
Thankfully, once again, things go well with this situation. We have managed to match the same ‘frequency’ in our daily life. My wife is living with the kids on Mondays to Fridays keeping an eye on their physical, educational, social, and spiritual development. Along with the line, I’m traveling dad fulfilling for a living while undertaking a remote supervision to my kids’ growth.
And weekend, the time we are always waiting for! This is the WE time! Staying just at home together; going out for music school, shopping mall, eating out; escaping to mountains for a short vacation; this is really our QUALITY TIME.
And I said to my kids, “This is our way of life, my Dears.”